Paul Heinz

Original Fiction, Music and Essays

A Death Poem

Death has been on my mind lately because there’s been a lot of it, some of it personal, some of it the public figure variety, most recently that of Neil Peart of Rush who I’d seen perform live numerous times.  The outer circles insulating my charmed life have been breached by the passing of those around the same age as me or just a few years down the line, so mortality has taken on new resonance.  I’m not depressed about it nor am I fatalistic, but I can’t pretend it’s not there.  It has to be reckoned with.  So, time for some poetry!

WHEN DEATH IS ALL AROUND

When death is all around
not even breath can be assumed.
Hyper-conscious.  Present. Aware.
It’s what you’ve been aiming for all along.
Yet the privilege shared by
witnessing others’ passing
falls flat upon weary ears
like a stone on the sunken earth.
Whether it’s “wrapped in the cradle of His bosom”
or “a dot of light in the sky’s sphere,”
there is no comfort in words of comfort.
Because lately it’s been friends
and friends of friends,
and mothers and lovers and brothers and sons,
wives and husbands
and old acquaintances.
No, not even breath can be assumed,
nor the sunrise,
nor lilac’s bloom,
nor pangs of hunger,
nor sated desires,
nor sacred moments.
For in another’s absence 
beckon those final empty seconds,
when all we hold dear
will be loosed into the ether
of God’s hollow embrace.

The "Best" Movies of the Decade

There were over 6000 movies released in U.S. theaters in the last decade – a staggering number – and anyone claiming to list the “best” of the decade first has to provide a disclaimer that they can only rate what they’ve seen.  For me, I watched approximately 240 films released within the last ten years, and I’ll undoubtedly add another 20 or so soon as I catch up on movies I’ve missed.  Case in point: I haven’t yet seen “Bohemian Rhapsody” or the Paddington movies because they’re not yet available for rental on Prime, so there they sit in my watchlist.  I’ll get to them eventually.

In the meantime, I’d like to share what I think are the best movies of the decade out of the 240 I’ve seen.  The word “best” is open to interpretation, of course.  Do we mean the movies we enjoyed the most?  Those films that moved us the most?  Those that we consider the most important?  For my list, I chose films from all three categories.  Some I just enjoyed the hell out of, some brought me to tears or gave me chills, and others resonated with me for days or weeks or months as I pondered their impact.  All are worthy movie-going experiences.  As a society, we tend not to reward the first category enough and tend to reward the middle category too much.  We’re suckers for sentimentality.  I’ve tried not to lean too far forward in any one direction.

First, my top ten, in order of release date:

Scott Pilgrim vs. the World
Beginners
Searching for Sugar Man
Silver Linings Playbook
Argo
The Grand Budapest Hotel
Birdman
The Big Short
Arrival
First Reformed

“Beginners” gets my favorite film of the decade vote.  I’ve already watched it four times, and for reasons I can’t entirely explain, I love everything about it: the characters, the pacing, the dry wit, the melancholic aura, and of course the inimitable Christopher Plummer’s first Oscar-winning performance.  But if I have to pick one film as the best of the decade, I’ll go with “The Big Short.”  It exposes the insanity of capitalism and human behavior in such an entertaining way, and it’s one of those films that I think we’ll look back on in decades to come as an unheeded warning sign for the future.  (The same could be said of “First Reformed,” but this is a tougher movie to watch.)  It’s worth noting that when my three children and I made our choices independent of each other and compared notes, only one film made all of our top-ten lists: “Scott Pilgrim vs. the World.”  It’s a rip-roaring good time with such humor and creativity, along with a good heart, that it’s tough not to like.

Of course, there were a helluva lot more than ten great movies in the 2010s.  Here are another 28 that were in contention for me: The Social Network, The Tree of Life, The Descendants, Moneyball, Hugo, The Impossible, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Zero Dark Thirty, Drinking Buddies, Bad Words, Chef, Spotlight, Bridge of Spies, Manchester by the Sea, Hail Caesar!, Zootopia, Hell or High Water, La La Land, Lion, Wind River, Get Out, The Florida Project, I Tonya, All the Money in the World, Searching, Vice, Parasite, Once Upon a Time in Hollywood.  

These movies would serve me very well were I to be sent to a desert island with only one decade of movies to choose from.  The last ten years were certainly a source of disruption in the way we view entertainment, but one can’t argue that the quality (and certainly the quantity) suffered as a result.

Identifying Notes without Perfect Pitch

It’s been well-established that if you don’t have perfect pitch as an adult, you can’t develop it.  You might be able to develop a very good educated guess, but it’s not the same as playing a cluster of notes on a piano and being able to identify and sing each note perfectly, as Rick Beato’s son can.  (Beato is a well-known and wonderfully informative musician and vlogger whose YouTube videos I highly recommend not only for musicians but for music fans who want to delve a little more deeply into songcraft.)  Of course, learning relative pitch is an important skill that you can develop.  When I attended Berklee College of Music back in the 80s they had classes devoted to ear training, and while I found these useful at the time, these days anyone can train their ears at home without shelling out gobs of cash.  Just download an app at your favorite store and start learning.

That aside, it does come in handy to be able to identify pitch without first plucking notes on a keyboard.  So what can you do if you don’t have perfect pitch? Once again, Rick Beato comes to the rescue. Part 3 of his video series “How to Develop Perfect Pitch” was an eye-opener for me, even though it shouldn’t have been; sometimes the most obvious pursuits are the least likely to cross one’s mind.  In this video Beato recommends choosing twelve songs – one for each pitch – and using these as references for pitch identification.  I had done this for years for the key of C with REO Speedwagon’s “Roll with the Changes,” and once I found C, I could identify all the other pitches through relative pitch.  But Beato’s method works better because it’s quicker – why identify C first if what you really want to do is identify an A? – and also because if one reference fails you by a half-step – as it sometimes does for me – then having another reference can help correct your error.

Watching Beato’s video, I recognized immediately that I’d be better off choosing songs I know well, that are a part of my DNA.  This is easier said than done, because while there are ample pop/rock songs in the key of E or D or A, finding songs to help identify a C# or Aflat are fewer and farther between.  Even now, I’m not positive that some of my choices are the best, but I’ve been able to employ Beato’s pitch-identification strategy while playing piano at church and it works pretty darn well.  It’s really helpful to look at a piece of music and know what the first note or chord is going to sound like before playing it, as it can be jolting if you’re expecting the pitch to be different.  With Beato’s technique, I can more often than not correctly identify the pitch before the song begins.  This isn’t to say that I can identify a note in the midst of a complicated song whose key I haven’t already identified – Beato’s strategy isn’t a substitute for having perfect pitch and has its limitations – but it is useful.

When identifying songs that work for you, it’s important that the note you’re trying to identify plays at the start of the song. A song might be in the key of E, but if the first note is an A, then pick this song for A, not for E.  This is the case for “All my Loving” by the Beatles, which I’ve chosen as my “A” song.  Another helpful tool is to create a playlist of all twelve songs on Spotify or some other music streaming service so that you can quiz yourself quickly and often.

Without further ado, here are the twelve songs I’ve chosen for my pitch identification.  Some of these may be obscure for you, but there are several lists in the comments section of Beato’s video that might prove helpful. 

  • C:  “Can’t Buy Me Love” by The Beatles, and “Roll with the Changes” to confirm.

  • C#:  The opening to “Mr. Brightside” by the Killers.  Finding a rock song in C# wasn’t easy!

  • D: “We Can Work It Out” by The Beatles.  This one really works well for me for some reason.  “Another Brick in the Wall (part 2)” by Pink Floyd is another good one.

  • Eflat:  The second note of “The Long and Winding Road” by The Beatles.  Ideally, I’d pick nothing by Beatles songs – they are so ingrained into my musical memory.

  • E: “Eleanor Rigby” by The Beatles.

  • F: The first note of “Goodbye to Love” by The Carpenters.

  • F#:  The first note sung in “Oh! Darling” by The Beatles.

  • G:  “Christmas” by The Who.

  • Aflat:  “Ripples” by Genesis.  This is one that works almost 100% for me.

  • A:  The first note of “All My Loving” by The Beatles.

  • Bflat:  The first note sung on “Guide Vocal” by Genesis.  The “Star Wars” theme works well here, too.

  • B:  The original version of “The Revealing Science of God” by Yes.

There you are!  I just tested myself again for each pitch using the above reference songs (first clearing my hearing palette) and I got 10 of 12 notes correct, with two off by a half-step, which means I probably need to practice some more.  This method may not be a perfect pitch substitute, but it does have value if you’re willing to put a little work into it.

Cost Savings Techniques

Last week I referenced a New York Times article by Alina Tugend about finances and how many of us compare what we have to those around us and may even be bewildered by how others can afford things we can’t.  In this article, Tugend referenced a website I had never heard before called Mr. Money Mustache.  This website is a rabbit hole of mega proportions, throwing you into a world where every decision you make has financial repercussions.  It’s also a helluva lot of fun, with fantastic advice for people of all income levels, and I particularly love to read the forum where people chime in on various topics, ranging from the sensible to the absurd. 

Mr. Money Mustache is all about achieving financial independence by making smart decisions, and it’s just one website that’s proliferated the F.I.R.E. movement, which stands for “Financial Independence, Retire Early.”  There’s even a new documentary available on-line called “Playing With Fire,” which summarizes the trend of people eschewing mainstream habits in favor of gaining freedom from the spending treadmill. It’s great stuff, and even if you don’t go in whole-hog the way some disciples have, there’s plenty of advice to get you on your way to saving more, borrowing less, and giving yourself a better chance to pursue what you want in life rather than what you have to do due to your financial situation.

I’ve written before about my family’s philosophy when it comes to finances, but I’d like to highlight a few things we’ve done over the last twenty years or so that made an impact.  True, we still have spending weaknesses (for me: records, musical instruments, concert tickets and eating out), but by and large we’ve been able to put our family’s money where it matters most to us (namely, retirement, college savings, trips, and charity).  Here are a few things that have worked well for us:

1)     I cut my own hair.  Yes, I’m fairly bald, which makes this a lot more doable, but it’s an option for many of us.  Savings: about $250 a year over the past 15 years.  Total:  $3750.

2)     My family hasn’t had cable TV for 19 years now.  This is a much more doable proposition today than it was in the year 2000, and if you haven’t already done so, I urge you to cut the cord.  Savings: about $1200 a year for 19 years.  Total: $22,800.

3)     My wife and I have used Republic Wireless for our cell-phone service since 2014, spending on average about $250 per phone verses the iPhone or Samsung Galaxy that cost upwards of $1000.  Additionally, we spend about $25 a month each for phone service.  Today, that’s not a huge savings, but in 2014 it was.  All told, I figure we’ve saved about $3000 in phone costs and about $1200 in service costs since 2014.  Before then I didn’t even have a smart phone, so the total savings is even greater.  (NOTE: I’m ashamed to admit that some of this savings has been offset by my family still having a landline.  My wife won that battle, but family harmony is worth every penny!).

4)     We cut our own lawn, shovel/blow our own driveway, and don’t pay for any kind of landscaping except for tree removal.  At the low end, I figure I’ve saved about $60 per month for six months a year, and maybe another $150 a year for snow removal.  Let’s call it $500 a year, or $9500 savings since 2000.

5)     During my children’s school years, they were allowed to eat one hot lunch per week.  Every other lunch had to be made at home.  Cost savings: not much, really, as school lunch prices are very reasonable in Illinois.  But I feel like over the long haul this rule taught my kids to be more self-sufficient.  My now-adult daughters pack their own food most days and don’t go out to eat as often as they might otherwise.

6)     I save a lot on purchasing cheaper wine at my local liquor store, which often sells overstocked or older wines at huge discounts.  I often buy $15-$30 bottles of wine for $4 each.  Savings?  Well, let’s face it.  Wine isn’t a necessity, so the real savings would be giving up drinking altogether, so I’m not adding this in my calculation.  But it is another example of approaching purchases with a little more wisdom.

7)     My family hasn’t purchased a new car since 2007, and we still own it.  Our other car was purchased used, and that’s the only way we’ll go in the future.  If there are two rules to follow when it comes to spending: always, always pay off your credit card debt each month, and keep your car for as long as possible (and by slightly used cars).  Savings?  Hard to calculate, but let’s figure $100 a month for the past 12 years.  Total: $14,400.

8)     Keep your appliances and outdoor equipment for as long as possible.  I just broke down and purchased a new lawnmower after 17 years of using the old one.  And here’s the real miracle: our kitchen refrigerator is now older than our 22 year-old daughters.  How?  Well, for one, we’ve been lucky.  But also, we don’t particularly care what our refrigerator looks like (it’s not exactly pretty at this point), and I vacuum off the dust from the coils a few times a year.  Who knows if this was the difference, but it’s nice not to have to purchase another one!  Total savings: about $2000 minus the electricity we’re undoubtedly paying for a terribly inefficient appliance. 

9)     We do a lot of home maintenance projects ourselves, outsourcing only when necessary.  And it’s important to understand that I didn’t grow up handy in any way, shape or form.  I’ve simply read, watched videos and asked lots and lots of questions from my friends who are better equipped for this sort of thing.  In the end, we’ve managed to do a few things well, including all interior painting, changing electrical outlets, installing a new circuit board for our boiler, installing our own ceiling fans, installing all of the toilets, sinks and faucets, repairing drywall, etc.  It all adds up.  Also, don’t forget to change/clean those filters on your air conditioners, humidifiers, etc. and stay on top of your auto maintenance.  Savings?  A helluva lot, but hard to measure.  I think conservatively at least $20,000

10)  We put our non-investment savings into an on-line account that earns (currently) around 1.8% interest and we locked our mortgage in at a really low rate (2.8% I believe).  Smarter still would be to not have a mortgage, though opinions vary on this. 

11)  We only pay for a fee-based financial planner, rather than asset-based.  I wrote about in-depth earlier this year

12) We clean our own home - not a given where my family lives. I have no idea how much a service costs, but let’s conservatively say $50 a month or $600 year. Total savings over the past 19 years: $9500.

13)  Here are a few examples of ways to save a bit, but more importantly, to reduce waste.  We do these more for the environmental impact than anything else.

a)      This is my favorite: instead of using Swiffer sheets to dust our hardwood floors, we use pieces of fleece leftover from family blankets we made some time ago.  Simply dust, shake the fleece outdoors, and wash.  We’ve been using some of these pieces for over a decade.

b)     We’ve used almost exclusively cloth napkins and real dishes, even when entertaining, for the past 20 years or so.  I abhor using paper and plastic products when avoidable, and cloth napkins look nice and are easy to throw in with the laundry.

c)      I’ve started to use my own utensils and napkins when going to eat at a fast-food restaurants.

d)     We’ve used cloth grocery bags for the past 25 years or so.

e)     We print on both sides of sheets of paper.

f)     For our cats’ litter boxes and our dog’s poop bags, we use the bags that come with products we already purchase: cereal boxes, toilet paper or paper towel packaging, insulated envelopes that come in the mail, etc.  Of course, not having cats and dogs to begin with would provide even more savings – both financially and environmentally – but how to you say no to this face?

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There are undoubtedly a lot of other things I could mention.  If I add up all the above highlights, we’re looking at around $85,000 in savings plus the interest earnings and savings from a low mortgage rate.  Not bad, but these days, that can be wiped out awfully quickly just through a kids’ college education.  Crazy, isn’t it?  But it all adds up.  The website Mr. Money Mustache, along with the good counsel of people like Clark Howard and Dave Ramsey, can do a lot to get you on your way to cost-savings.  I hope some of my aforementioned examples speak to you as well.  Happy savings!

Finances, Budgeting and Keeping up with the Joneses

The New York Times recently posted an article on finances and how many of us compare our own lot with those around us.  Too often, we might be reminded of what we don’t have rather than what we do, perhaps leading to feelings of ineptitude or inadequacy.  It’s human nature, I suppose, and these feelings might be more acute in the United States, where the individual is mythologized so vehemently with tales of the self-made millionaire.  We want to believe that what we have is a result of what we’ve earned, and if we don’t have as much as our neighbor, it must surely be because they’re doing something right and we’re doing something wrong.  I generally don’t harbor strong jealousies, but I must admit to being bewildered by the sheer volume of opulence that surrounds me in the Chicago suburbs.   Surely, there can’t be that many investment bankers and surgeons, can there?

But as the Times article highlights, when it comes to finances, things may be a bit more complicated than they appear.  A successful friend of mine once touted that he was a self-made achiever, failing to mention that his parents had paid for his college education and his first car.  People can be very sanctimonious when it comes to finances.  Sure, some people are well-off and have earned every penny, but for others wealth might be – in part – due to a sizeable inheritance or familial assistance with a home purchase or college expense.  Hell, if my wife and I hadn’t saved money for our three kids to go to college, we might be living a fairly opulent lifestyle too!  For others, opulence might merely be a mirage paid for with massive amounts of debt.

Regardless of the circumstances, we all make financial decisions, and it’s important to align those choices with our values.  Far too many of us make short-sighted and boneheaded financial choices, as I’ve written about before, but if your choices are guided by your values, then it doesn’t matter what your neighbor has or doesn’t have: you’ll be putting your money where it matters most to you.

So as you drive past your neighbor’s house, keep in mind that they might not have saved for college tuition as you did, or that they don’t put away a large percentage of their income for retirement as you do, or they don’t give a sizeable amount of money to charity as you do.  Or maybe they do and still have enough leftover for a Tesla and a luxury vacation to Tahiti.  If so, good for them! 

And if you’re someone who hasn’t been able to do any of the above, who maybe has made poor decisions in the past, try making a financial plan according to your values, align your choices according to that plan, and stick to it as best you can without worrying about keeping up with the Joneses.  You might find that you have more money available than you realize to put towards what’s important to you. And consider reading my blog from three years ago about twenty pieces of financial advice that I wrote for my children.

The Times article mentioned a blog I had never heard of before: Mr. Money Mustache.  Next week I’ll write about this, the FIRE movement it espouses, and some personal money-saving strategies I’ve found useful.

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